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Designing as a Couple

Changing your home or embarking on a new one is an exciting time! I always love going on Design Consultations where we talk with families about the changes that they want to make to their existing home or a new home that they're building. And like almost any major change in life, there’s likely to be a bit of give and take when you have more than one opinion that’s part of a decision.

Designing a new space can be a fun and creative project for couples, but it can also be a challenge when you have different tastes. Below are our best tips for creating a beautiful and functional home that you both love. Just keep these tips in mind as you’re beginning the process together!

1. Identify Common Ground

Start by finding out what both partners like and dislike about the function as well as the aesthetics. By identifying some points that you agree on, you’ll begin with a stronger foundation to build upon. Maybe you both agree that want a home filled with color rather than pale neutrals? Or you discover that you both gravitate towards all things mid-century modern? Perhaps you crave an ultra-luxe bathroom?

Start by creating inspiration boards and collecting images of spaces that you love. This can be done either physically (think ripping pages from magazines) or digitally, by using Pinterest, Houzz Boards, or saving images onto your phone.

Collect your images and look for similarities or patterns in what you both gravitate towards, and use that as a starting point.

2. Prioritize your Project

I’ve been a part of some pretty tense conversations with couples who weren’t on the same page; for example, they couldn't agree on whether to begin with the second or first floor. Be sure to talk through what areas or rooms are most important to tackle first so that you have the same areas of focus.

3. Identify your General Style

Not everyone knows exactly what their design style is, so take some time Googling design aesthetics and styles, or taking a spin around Pinterest or Houzz to see what you gravitate towards, and then share it with your partner. The more that you can identify what design elements you like, the easier it will be to hone in on your style. Do you love all things vintage or traditional? Do you prefer clean lines and sleek finishes? Do Being able to share these elements is the beginning of the next step.

4. Compromise

Be open to trying new styles and incorporating elements from each partner's preferred style. For example, one partner may prefer a more traditional look while the other prefers modern, so look for ways to balance both styles.

The great part is that many current aesthetics have a mix of different elements so that rooms look curated and collected, rather than just having a single note of a certain style. If you love traditional-leaning furniture, adding a more modern wallpaper and chandelier can accommodate your partner’s contemporary style while adding more visual interest to your space.

5. Assign Rooms (When it Makes Sense)

If your partner is the one who’s going to primarily use the basement as a sports-centric TV and bar area for their friends, consider having them take the lead on that area. This will allow both partners to express their style without having to compromise on the overall look of the home. A skilled designer can find ways to incorporate design elements that will be woven throughout your home.

6. Mix Old and New

Combine vintage and new pieces to create a unique and personalized look. This can help both partners feel that their styles are represented in the overall design.

Do you have a piece of artwork that your partner loves? Maybe it was gifted to them by their grandfather.

Having special pieces throughout your home allows your partner to contribute things that are meaningful to them to your home.

7. Get Professional Help

I’m not talking about marriage counseling here (but if you must, please do it before we arrive). I’m suggesting working with an interior designer! A designer serves as a neutral third party that can lead you in creating a design that blends both of your tastes and preferences.

By following these tips, you can create a beautiful and harmonious home that both partners love, despite having different tastes. The key is to listen to each other, practice compromise, and find a balance that works for both of you.

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